How to Convince Your Partner to Try a Threesome

Threesomes are a widespread fantasy among men and women who love the idea of having the attention of two people at once. Initially, it was thought that this was the realm of male fantasies, but according to research, it is also one of the top five fantasies women have.

Whatever your threesome fantasy is, MMF, FMF, MFM, or any homosexual threesome, if you want your fantasy to come true, you need to discuss your desires with your partner. That is the only way to see if they are willing to try it out.

A discussion alone may not be enough to convince your partner to try a threesome. Here is how to persuade them, helping make your dream come true:

Share Your Fantasy

Whatever your threesome fantasy, you have probably had it in your thoughts for a while and indulged in some reading, porn, and masturbation. You want to share this with your partner, but you don’t want them to feel pressured to feel that they are doing it for you alone or doing it as a favor. It is unfair for them to participate unless they want to.

Before broaching the subject with your partner, it is best to be entirely sure that you want to bring a third person into your bedroom. Once you are sure there is nothing wrong with sharing this common fantasy, tell your partner why the idea fascinates you. Then start with hypothetical discussions to plant the seeds before setting out to make the request.

Reassure Your Partner

Usually, the initial response of most partners to a threesome is the fear that they don’t please you sexually. You need to reassure them that it has nothing to do with their sexual performance and that you aren’t running off secretly to have sex with someone else. Instead, reassure them that you want to add some fun to your sex life.

Participate in some fun activities

You can participate in several activities together to get your partner used to the idea. These include going to strip clubs, male or female, depending on your fantasy, and watching relevant shows, TV movies, porn, etc.

Address the Aspect of Experimentation and Intimacy

While you are reassuring your partner, let them know how exploration and experimentation can add some spice to your sex life. For example, a new shared sexual experience could increase your intimacy.

Listen to your partner

Now it’s your time to listen to your partner. If your partner is very jealous, sharing you in a sexual situation may not be something they are willing to do. You need to first work through the issues that spark jealousy in the first place.

Whatever your threesome fantasy is, let your partner know exactly what will be involved and who will be catering to whose needs. Now listen to their thoughts and what they would be comfortable with.

Your partner needs to have a say

Your partner needs to know that during the threesome, they can decide to stop an activity or quit at any time. Also, they need to have a say in the choice of the third party. You should accept their choice, even if they disagree with a particular person you want. Once the threesome is agreed on, before participating, make sure everyone is on the same wavelength from before to prevent it from turning into a bad experience.

By giving your partner a say in the matter, you include them entirely in your fantasy.

Don’t Corner You Partner

Suppose at any point during your discussions you see that your partner is highly uncomfortable. In that case, it is best to back off for a while because they may feel bullied and cornered, completely refusing to consider your request.

Naturally, you will feel rejected at a time like this, but there is no need to feel embarrassed. Your partner’s denial to participate might not be a permanent decision. If they later come around to the idea, you may have an unforgettable experience. Then again, if they don’t, at least you tried, but you must respect their decision.