Infidelity can happen in every relationship, even if nothing is missing. There are several reasons why people cheat, including a predisposition to it, personal reasons, relationship problems, or even a combination of these.
Cheating in a committed relationship means losing the respect and trust of a partner and social standing because of societal perceptions. Therefore, what causes someone in a good relationship with a loving and attractive partner and with no other apparent problems like money or family to cheat?
1. Feelings of Neglect
When a person feels neglected in a relationship, the loneliness that arises from feeling undervalued or overlooked can often lead to infidelity. It does not just help a partner to be around in a relationship; emotional support is also critical. When someone feels misunderstood or neglected, they can feel taken for granted, quickly falling for someone who pays attention to them and gives them the impression that they are wanted and understood.
Preventing feelings of neglect in a relationship requires honesty, so tell your partner that you need to feel more supported.
2. Issues With Self-Esteem
People with low self-esteem may feel more neglected because they require validation from others. If their partners don’t provide the endorsement, they often seek attention and praise outside their relationship.
However, sometimes the partner of a person with self-esteem issues can try to offer support, but they also cannot be the only source providing their partner with self-worth. They need to also work on these issues through therapy to help prevent problems in the relationship.
3. Diverse Libidos and Sexual Desire
Being in love does not always equal passion in a relationship, and the absence of desire can lead to infidelity. In the beginning, most relationships go through a phase with plenty of intimacy and sex, but these decrease when the honeymoon phase passes. In addition, when the sexual desires of two partners don’t align because of changes over time, then one of the partners can feel unsatisfied.
It’s always best to discuss the difference between libidos and sexual desires to help prevent infidelity and improve your relationship. Therefore, keep the communication open and discuss your feelings about the amount of sex you have, trying new things, differences, libidos, etc.
4. Poor Communication in the Bedroom
There is a difference between diverse sexual desires and unmet needs because of poor communication. Imagination and exploration in the bedroom can help you meet each other’s needs, even when you have different sexual desires. However, this requires communication to ensure that you are satisfying each other and not pushing each other to seek sexual satisfaction elsewhere.
Therefore, frequent sex does not mean that you satisfy each other. Communicate your needs honestly to help strengthen your connection and improve your sex life.
5. The Need for Variety
Some people will cheat no matter how happy they are with their partner because they need sexual variety. Sometimes, these people aren’t aware that they cannot be monogamous and only find out once they are in a committed relationship. Feelings of confinement could lead them to cheat on their partner.
Once again, communication can help solve the problem, but you must be open about each other’s needs and desires. For example, variety in the bedroom can sometimes solve the problem, but the other partner could sometimes agree to try polyamory (opening up the relationship).
6. The excitement of the Thrill
Sometimes people in a happy relationship will cheat because they want to feel the thrill of doing something taboo or wrong. Unfortunately, this type of infidelity is often the hardest to address. However, opening up to a partner can encourage you to find ways to keep your relationship exciting.
7. Relationship Misunderstandings Lead to Insecurity
Every relationship needs clear definitions to ensure that you have no misunderstandings about your relationship status. Therefore, you must discuss your expectations about the openness or closedness of your relationship and clarify all boundaries.
In cases where one partner doesn’t consider that they are in a long-term relationship, the lack of clarity can lead to cheating. Therefore, if you believe that you have a shared future, communicate this to each other to prevent relationship misunderstandings.
Temptations and opportunities abound; some people cannot resist these, even if they are in a happy relationship. However, as tricky as these feelings are to fight, working on keeping the intimacy, attraction, and love alive can help reduce the chances of infidelity.
Anger can lead to one partner wanting to get back at the other. But unfortunately, being significantly hurt and angry can lead to retribution, no matter how great the relationship is. Avoid such compulsive actions by dealing correctly with anger instead of allowing it to fester and grow out of proportion.